This says it all!
This says it all!
Men, as a general rule, are about as romantic as a rock. They HATE Valentines Day because it puts pressure on them to buy you something. They don’t have a clue what you would like because when you tell them things they aren’t really listening. Now they are on the spot.
Some guys will even break up with a girl before Valentines Day, the stress is too much for them. Other guys avoid the girl for a week or so and pretend they forgot. Then… the ones like my hubby, who claim they didn’t know what day Valentine’s Day fell on this year.
I used to get pissed off. The jerk hurt my feelings. He must not love me, or he would at least buy me a card. I would work myself up into a full-blown depression. Over freaking Valentine’s Day. Every year this would happen. Happy anticipation, then crash and burn. I HATED Valentine’s Day.
Then I wised up. Who better than moi to give me Valentine’s Day gifts? The first time I gave myself a Valentine, I admit it was out of spite. I was angry. I was sick of being ignored. It was a very expensive gift – part of me hoped that he would figure out he would save money if he gave me something the next year. I admit, that sometimes, I am ridiculously naïve.
The point I’m trying to make (and taking my sweet time to make it, sorry) is that your guy is probably about as romantic as any straight man. Which is, according to your (and most women’s) specifications, not very romantic at all. There is a reason for that and it’s called the “Y” chromosome. Men think completely different then we do, remember?
Men cannot be romantic “on demand”.
Most romantic expressions of love from a guy do not occur on your birthday, anniversary, Valentine’s Day, or Christmas. We are conditioned by advertisements and Hallmark to think those days are special. Men ignore decorations and advertisements, like they ignore how dirty the shower gets.
Get this – when men express romantic feelings, they actually do not realize they are doing it. It’s true! So, number one: we must NOT tell them this because that could ruin a good thing. And number two: We women must learn to recognize these expressions of love. We can’t keep feeling unloved and bitter just because we don’t understand them.
So, before V-Day comes along (next week!), I’ll pass along my many years of research, with how men express love. May this knowledge prevent you from getting angry or hating Valentine’s Day. And…for my male readers – This is not the post you are looking for.
Ways Men Express Romantic Love:
How does your guy express romantic feelings?
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♥ TTFN ♥
— This is a “re-post” from February 2014 , that deserves an encore for my newest readers. If you recognize this post, then you are one of my long-time readers and I ♥ you!! —
A Very Happy Valentines Day, to all my readers!
May you receive the romance you’ve always desired